It’s January and that means 2016 is a distant memory…but what have I learnt?????
Many things as usual… But there’s a common theme that keeps popping up and that’s space…… space to think……breathe…….create……hmmmm sounds good just thinking about it!
I very rarely get a moment to myself these days, even my practice isn’t safe or assured that I’ll find space!
While I’m ok with that, as it’s just part of my journey as a mum with two young children, it’s what I do with my limited free time that I want to change.
When I get free time, I often don’t know what to do with myself. I have been known to rush around to try to get on top of the ‘list’ of things to do, even in my practice. You see I never know how long I’ll get before I’m needed again and I always want to do so many things!
So you’ve probably guessed that my nature is to rush into things! I don’t think I am alone here, as it’s become a ‘norm’ in our society to be always available and we are rewarded by being ‘busy’ and taking on many task sometimes at the same time. The online world only adds an extra element to our busyness. While I think it’s fine to be ‘busy’, what is really getting most of us (and me) unstuck is the super fast pace of our ‘busyness’ and what we choose to be ‘busy’ doing. It’s what we choose to do with our time and how much we fit in that’s the key here.
The answer is space.
In fact over the years and even more recently, it’s been my practice that has taught me that it’s ok to be slow and connected- or at least begin that way! Because it’s at these times where I find space- and space is where we can connect, listen, learn, slow down and breathe.
When I was away I got some extra alone time and when that happens I often don’t know what to do with myself! I used to rush around to try to get on top of the ‘list’ of things to do, even in my practice. My nature is to rush into things and it’s my practice that has taught me sometimes it’s good to be slow and connected- or at least begin that way! Another thing my practice taught me was consistency and connection. There are key go to asanas that I practice each time, particularly uttanasana. It’s a pose that’s not always been comfortable and I have had to work on it constantly. I have always loved the exploration of each aspect of a pose, but have been often impatient with getting results! But patience and practice is exactly what’s required- this pose for me has taken years of practice (and love) to master and I’m still not there yet! and that’s a lesson for life… Patience, practice, connection and little by little we chip away and work towards the goals in our journey. Yoga is always a fascinating lesson for life!
Here’s an example from one of my Instagram posts of how I use yoga to find ‘space’…..
How on earth do we find time just for space???
It’s not an easy answer and it’s different for everyone. For me, my most recent wake up call was when I had my second child last year, and I had to again reassess my priorities. My shrinking me time was precious and hard to find. I knew I needed space… To be…. to breathe……to meditate… Even if it was only for a minute.
So I thought about it, I identified all the times in my day where I could have space…and I wanted to be as realistic as possible. So identified two times in my day. One (and the preferred one) was in the early morning if the kids weren’t awake, where I’d start my practice by sitting, breathing, connecting for 5-10 mins or as long as I needed ( or could get!) I would also begin my practice with a slow warm up, rather than beginning in a rush of strong movements. That way I would be able to connect with myself and notice how I was feeling, what I needed for that day. And… as its never very long before I’m bothered by a child and have to finish my practice in spits and spurts, or not even get a morning practice at all (like today!) …..I also identified another time, the middle of the day when it’s nap time… or meditation time…
Another thing my practice taught me was consistency and connection. There are key go to asanas that I practice each time, particularly uttanasana. It’s a pose that’s not always been comfortable and I have had to work on it constantly.
So, as today marks a full moon I challenge myself to let go, I will fill myself with space literally from the ground up. I’ll start with my breath and connecting to the earth- and I’ll sit for as long as I can. Will you join me???
Until next time, good luck and Namaste ox