It’s the end of the year, Christmas is over and it’s time to reflect on the year that’s been.Take a minute to ponder without judgement over what’s been, both good and bad. You may even want to write it down. Then notice if there is anything particularly negative, and anything particularly positive. Ask yourself if you need to let go of anything that is no longer serving you, and if that answer is yes there are a number of ways you can do this….
1. Write it down on a piece of paper and (safely) burn it.
2. Breathe in deeply and on your exhale open your mouth and make a huge sigh- signalling letting go of that particular thing. Repeat this several times until you feel better.
3. Spend time in meditation, sitting upright in a comfortable position for at least 5-10 mins and repeat the mantra “I allow myself to let go with awareness and without judgement”.
Once you have reflected on the year, let’s turn our attention to the new year about to come upon us. You may have lot’s of ideas about what you want to do/ fix/improve about yourself and want to make some resolutions, or you may just think that it’s too hard and resolutions never work.
Well I agree with you, resolutions don’t work as they are often based upon negative things we perceive about ourselves and are often unachievable, which is why they don’t work. I am suggesting you take a different view, I am all for setting goals but they need to be realistic, positive and simple.
What I personally like to do, and something I often teach is setting intentions. You can set an intention at any time, such as at the start of your day or at the start of a meditation or a yoga class. Another great time is at the start of a new year. I believe an intention needs to be something simple, positive and must benefit you. So, here’s my tips on setting Intentions that work….
1. Find a comfortable and quiet place to sit, bring a pen and paper with you (a good time is after you have completed the letting go exercise above)
2. Close your eyes and take some time to sit and breathe, deep belly breaths through your nose if possible. If you would like you could also spend some minutes in meditation.
3. When you are feeling calm and relaxed, open your eyes and write down an intention for the new year, something simple, easily achievable and positive and usually one of the first things that comes to mind. Such as…. do something for myself each week that is healthy, enjoyable and relaxing… such as yoga or meditation. Notice I didn’t write every day… start small, you can always build up and if you think you can realistically meditate or do yoga every day, then write it down, if you can’t manage every week, write fortnightly or monthly.
4. When you have finished the first one, write down 3-4 more intentions that are once again simple, positive and achievable. It may be to take a nap once a week, do that training course you have been wanting to do for ages, apply for another job. You may even include something you are already doing. Just make sure that by the end of the year, you will be able to easily cross off at least 2 of your intentions.
I often deliberately write an intention that I’ll be easily be able to cross off within 1-2 months. That way I am setting myself up for success and if I can tick of my intentions easily, I don’t feel like a failure, I feel like I am successful and am more likely to set even more achievable goals for myself throughout the year.
So, I’ll leave you here to get to work…. Good luck, let’s catch up at the end of the year and see how we went!